Ask Michelle

Having boyfriend/girlfriend issues? Boss getting on your damn nerve? Send your questions to michelle[at]happygrrls.com and I will try to include it in the next installment of Ask Michelle.


Dear Michelle, 
I’ve been having a little problem with one of my best friends. He recently started dating someone a while ago and apparently has fallen head over heels for her. So much so that I haven’t heard from him in months. Even when I text him he never texts back. I am feeling a little hurt now. He totally ditched me for his new girlfriend. And no, I don’t have any feelings for him, and no I’m not jealous! Am I wrong to feel totally dissed? 
Signed, abandoned friend 

Dear abandoned friend, 
That’s good that your friend is in a new exciting relationship. How long has he been dating this girl? The reason that I ask is that when a relationship is new, you want to spend every waking moment with that person. Think back to when you were first dating someone. Didn’t you breathe and sleep that person? I’m not saying that what your friend did is right, but just cut him some slack. Give him a few weeks and if he totally blows you off, call him out on it. Let him know that you are his friend and you are happy for him, but you miss the friendship and he needs to treat you like a friend. Hopefully you can work together to meet in the middle and spend some time together. 

Let me know how it goes.  

 

Michelle

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Dear Angry Black Grrl

We've been getting a  lot of questions lately for our resident Rude Girl, Dear Angry Black Grrl.  She gives no-nonsense advice on all topics related to relationships.

If  you need some questions answered and can handle some tough love, send your questions to michelle@happygrrls.com.

Here's the latest question.

Dear Angry Black Grrl

First things first, I am not bitter and I am NOT jealous of my best friend.  Cool, now here’s my problem.  I loooove my best friend to death but there’s one thing that she does that pisses me off.  Every time that we go out, she brings her boyfriend along. Serious. Every. time!

We could be going for coffee, lunch, dinner, shopping,  anything, and his dumbass is there. I do like him, but sometimes I want to spend quality time with my bestie.  What do you suggest I do? 

Signed, three’s a crowd

Dear three’s a crowd,

Girl, I hear ya!  It’s cool for all of you to get along and do things together, but if  every time I saw my best friend I had to see her boyfriend, someone was getting cussed out.  Her dude is cool, but dayum, seeing him all the time gets annoying!

There ain’t no easy way to tell her, but you might have to come clean and say that you want a girls’ night out or that you want to chill with her without her man.  Maybe your friend doesn’t even know that it bothers you.  But if it were me, I would let her know pretty damn quick that I wasn't feelin' being the third wheel.

I’m not too sure what your friend will say, but at least you’re being honest. Either way, good luck!!