Texting: When not to text

Have we lost the art of conversation? I’ve been pondering this issue for the longest time because of the millions of modes of communication at one’s fingertips. E-mail, facebook, myspace, MSN (even that seems so prehistoric now!) and the infamous text.

Gone are the days when someone would pick up the phone and talk; it’s much easier and convenient to send a quick e-mail or text.



The reason that I bring this up is that I was recently set up by one of my good friends. She set me up with a guy that she thought I would totally click with. He was nice, cute, a little shy, but still a decent guy.



We initially communicated through e-mail as my friend thought it was the safest medium, so she simply gave him my personal e-mail address.

 Once he was less weirded out by the thought of being set up by our mutual friend, he felt comfortable enough to e-mail and eventually text me. Little did I know how much of a texter he was.



I thought that it was sweet that he would send me a daily text to see how I was, but I found it a little strange that it was his only mode of communicating with me. My friend said that he was shy, but I didn’t think that he was that shy!



Unfortunately, he was that shy!



After receiving his texts for about a month, I decided that if he wasn’t going to call, it was up to me to make the “first move.” Grrls, let me tell y’all, it didn’t go over too well.



He was quite nervous on the phone and eerily very quiet (I think I actually scared him!). Once I calmed him down and let him know I wasn’t a random crazy chick, he was okay. Quiet, but okay. I ended the call quickly and we eventually went back to good old reliable texting.



I realize that he wasn’t comfortable speaking (to a woman) on the phone or in person (believe it or not, we actually went out on one date, and I’m pretty sure I spoke for the entire date. Yes, I’m a chatty grrl, but still!). It was actually kinda sad because when I did ask him a few questions, he seemed sooooo interesting. His social life was quite active, so I couldn’t understand why he was socially inept. As interesting as he was, his inability to speak got in the way.



So how do you feel about texting when getting to know someone? Is it appropriate? How much is too much texting?




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Michelle